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Sunday, June 26, 2011

NEW YORK PASSES MARRIAGE EQUALITY!!!!!




New York will be the sixth state to legalize gay marriage and the second to do so my legislative vote once Gov. Andrew Cuomo signs the bill as he’s expected to do.
Once Cuomo signs, licenses will be available within 30 days.
The Republican-led legislature passed the bill with mostly Democratic votes, 33-29. The swing votes were Republicans:Sen. Stephen Saland and Mark Grisanti, both of whom remained officially undecided until announcing their votes on the floor.
New York lawmakers narrowly voted to legalize same-sex marriage Friday, handing activists a breakthrough victory in the state where the gay rights movement was born.
New York will become the sixth state where gay couples can wed and the biggest by far.
Gay rights advocates are hoping the vote will galvanize the movement around the country and help it regain momentum after an almost identical bill was defeated here in 2009 and similar measures failed in 2010 in New Jersey and this year in Maryland and Rhode Island.
Though New York is a relative latecomer in allowing gay marriage, it is considered an important prize for advocates, given the state’s size and New York City’s international stature and its role as the birthplace of the gay rights movement, which is considered to have started with the Stonewall riots in Greenwich Village in 1969.


The New York bill cleared the Republican-controlled state Senate on a 33-29 vote. The Democrat-led Assembly, which passed a different version last week, is expected to pass the new version with stronger religious exemptions and Democratic Gov. Andrew Cuomo, who campaigned on the issue last year, has promised to sign it. Same-sex couples can begin marrying begin 30 days after that. The passage of New York’s legislation was made possible in two Republican senators who had been undecided.
Sen. Stephen Saland voted against a similar bill in 2009, helping kill the measure and dealing a blow to the national gay rights movement.
“While I understand that my vote will disappoint many, I also know my vote is a vote of conscience,” Saland said in a statement to The Associated Press before the vote. “I am doing the right thing in voting to support marriage equality.”
Sen. Mark Grisanti, a GOP freshman from Buffalo, also said he would vote for the bill. Grisanti said he could not deny anyone what he called basic rights.
The effects of the law could be felt well beyond New York: Unlike Massachusetts, which pioneered gay marriage in 2004, New York has no residency requirement for obtaining a marriage license, meaning the state could become a magnet for gay couples across the country who want to have a wedding in Central Park, the Hamptons, the romantic Hudson Valley or that honeymoon hot spot of yore, Niagara Falls.
New York, the nation’s third most populous state, will join Connecticut, Iowa, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, Vermont and Washington, D.C., in allowing same-sex couples to wed.
For five months in 2008, gay marriage was legal in California, the biggest state in population, and 18,000 same-sex couples rushed to tie the knot there before voters overturned the state Supreme Court ruling that allowed the practice. The constitutionality of California’s ban is now before a federal appeals court.
While court challenges in New York are all but certain, the state – unlike California – makes it difficult for the voters to repeal laws at the ballot box. Changing the law would require a constitutional convention, a long, drawn-out process.
The sticking point over the past few days: Republican demands for stronger legal protections for religious groups that fear they will be hit with discrimination lawsuits if they refuse to allow their facilities to be used for gay weddings.
The climactic vote came after more than a week of stop-and-start negotiations, rumors, closed-door meetings and frustration on the part of advocates. Online discussions took on a nasty turn with insults and vulgarities peppering the screens of opponents and supporters alike and security was beefed up in the capitol to give senators easier passage to and from their conference room.
The night before, President Barack Obama encouraged lawmakers to support gay rights during a fundraiser with New York City’s gay community. The vote also is sure to charge up annual gay pride events this weekend, culminating with parades Sunday in New York City, San Francisco and other cities.


WEDDING CONCERNS??? ‘We’re broke, should we have a dry wedding?’


We’re getting married in September. Our funds are running out quickly and we’re not sure that we can provide everything we first dreamed would be at our wedding.
 My partner and I discussed taking alcohol out of the wedding for some breathing room. Should we have a dry wedding to make ends meet? We think sometimes a glass of wine or two can always help loosen things up, especially at a gay wedding with uptight families.

Alcohol can be one of the most expensive things about a wedding, but don’t think that you need to have an open bar to have happy attendees. There are ways around selling all of your goods on E-bay just to offer some booze at the wedding.

A great way to save some cash is to have Charles Shaw be your sommelier. Charles Shaw wine is known to most people as Trader Joe’s “Two Buck Chuck” (or “Three Buck Chuck” in New York City). Believe it or not, it’s amazing wine at an unreal price.
 I’d recommend designing elegant labels with your names on it to cover the Charles Shaw brand, so they’ll never know how much you’ve spent on the wine.
But before you take a truck in to get some cases, you should call your venue to find out if there is a cork fee for bringing in your own bottles. Corkage can be costly at $10 – $20 per bottle, which will take you back to square one. You should also ask your venue liaison if they require additional staffing to serve your guests. Some states require a licensed bartender that is trained to not over-serve those who may be driving.
Another inexpensive and elegant way to serve alcohol is a champagne fountain. The fountains are reasonable to rent, usually under $100, but they look like you’ve spend a ton in adding to the decor. Prosecco, a dry Italian sparkling wine, is a little cheaper that champagne, but still has a great taste. Also, if you use the short champagne glasses, you’ll get more milage out of your bottles.
If you’ve crunched the numbers and feel like those options won’t work, you can always offer a cash bar.

Your friends should come to your wedding to see you take the next step in your relationship, not to get sauced. I’ve been to weddings with a cash bar and have been completely content, especially the next day when I didn’t wake up with a splitting headache.
It’s great to always have your guests in mind for your special day. But know that you’ll be sharing your wedding with your partner – along with the debt you will acquire. Keep in mind that you’ll still have a fantastic day within your means.


‘My mom isn’t handling my coming out very well....what should I do?’

Question: I’m at my wits end; my mother has been pretty bad about my coming out. At points she acts all loving, then she says really mean things about it. I don’t know what to do, what should I do?   


Your mother is reacting within normal limits to learning about your being gay. I always remind my GLBT clients that we often are hard on ourselves in the beginning once we recognized we were gay. It took time to learn and understand that there was nothing wrong with who we are.
An initial homophobic and negative response is common and understandable. Many of us are socially imprinted to be homophobic and heterosexist from birth. I remember holding my first nephew when he was born and the family saying things like, “He will grow up and meet a nice Jewish girl” and “He will grow up to be a ladies man” and I said, “Or he will grow up and meet a nice Jewish guy and be a man’s man” to which my family responded, “Why would you say that?”
This is a great example at how from birth we are taught to be negative and  prejudicial about someone being anything other than heterosexual. Any out and proud GLBT or  gay-friendly heterosexual person who says they don’t have some hidden homophobia and heterosexism is lying to himself or herself. This is where your mother sounds like she might be right now.
You mother needs time. She needs to learn that it is not her fault. Believe it or not there was a time when the mother was blamed for creating a gay child by making her son into a mama’s boy. Ridiculous as this sounds, many therapists still believe this myth today and your mother may have that in her mind as well.
She may feel she caused this to happen to you.
Many mothers I speak to—and fathers as well—tell me they hope their child is not gay not because they are anti-gay but rather because of the difficulties they fear their child will face. As a parent they don’t want to see them go through hardships.
I would sit down with your mother and let her know that it is important to you that she find peace with your being gay. Be willing to talk with her about anything—even if it is about things in which you disagree. This isn’t about making her accept you or forcing your opinions on her, it is about you stating your opinions and she stating hers and both of you engaging in dialogue together.
Tell your mother that while you are interested in hearing her feelings and her point of view, you will not tolerate name calling or mean statements. That is off limits for both of you.
You both need to contain any reactivity as well. In other words, you can have your feelings, but it is never okay to “emotionally vomit” all over each other. Nothing productive comes from yelling, screaming, blaming or over-reacting.

 Both of you need to agree to control your emotions while engaged in dialogue— which might not feel so good if you are listening to something she says with which you disagree.
Another thing to do is to validate her feelings. Tell her that it makes sense that she is having issues with your being gay, because it does make sense. This isn’t agreeing with her point of view, it is saying to her, “I hear you and you make sense to me”. You need to ask her to do the same for you.
And finally, give her as many resources as possible starting with PFLAG (Parents, Friends and Family of Lesbians and Gays). I find this group is the most loving and accepting group of all the GLBT ally groups around. Give her a reading list. There are many great books for parents whose children have come out of the closet.
Good luck to you both. I believe that if both of you are able to follow up with these suggestions that things will get better and be hopeful.

LGBT FAMILY!!! WE HAVE ANOTHER REASON TO CELEBRATE!!!!


New York same-sex couples start their wedding plans, celebrate new law




Same-sex couples and gay rights groups in Central New York and across the state applauded the 33-29 vote that made New York the sixth, and largest, state to approve same-sex marriage. Gov. Andrew Cuomo signed it into law just before midnight Friday. 

All five of Central New York’s Republican senators voted no; the lone Democrat, David Valesky, voted yes. 

Same-sex couples who have wanted to marry for years have had their hopes dashed before. In 2007 and 2009, the state Assembly approved a bill but the state Senate did not. Then, on June 15, the Assembly voted again, and it was a nail-biter until late Friday on what the closely divided Senate would do.

Since 2008 New York has recognized same-sex marriages performed in other states, giving same-sex couples the same legal rights in New York as opposite-sex married couples. When Massachusetts legalized same-sex marriage in 2004, many New Yorkers got married there. Others have been married in Connecticut, which first had civil unions and then same-sex marriage in 2008. 



But some same-sex couples said they wanted to be married at home. 

“I’ve watched people do it all my life. They have these huge formal weddings, which I’ve loved,” she said. “I just want to have my seven people in my wedding party and wear a traditional tuxedo and my partner wear a traditional gown.” 

n churches where gay marriage has been accepted for years, clergy members celebrated the new law. 

“I would just say, ‘Hallelujah,’” said the Rev. Jean Wahlstrom of the May Memorial Unitarian Universalist Church in Syracuse. “It’s a long-awaited stand for justice and equal rights. It affirms family values that are grounded in love and not in hatred.” 



Becky Clifford and her wife, Terri Clifford, of Liverpool, were married last year in Connecticut. They already have all the rights and protections of marriage in New York, but they plan to renew their vows in a ceremony on their first anniversary at St. Matthew’s Episcopal Church in Liverpool.

“There are always going to be people who don’t look at us as usual, and that’s OK,” Clifford said. “There are not going to be as many questions. When I mention my wife, people aren’t going to say, ‘Is that legal?’” 


Thursday, June 23, 2011

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Facebook Shuts Down Homophobic Hate Page!


A homophobic Facebook group called The New Anti-Gay Movement has now been removed from the site.The administrators of the now-removed group had stated: “This page is for those of us against ALL gays, man and woman alike. Those of us who are tired of seeing them flaunt it like it is a badge of honor and acceptable. Spread it like wildfire. Suggest to all your friends.”

A comment in response to complaints from other Facebook users read: “And go ahead and report this page all you want. It attacks nobody directly and is in complete compliance with my rights as a citizen of the USA.”

Facebook’s Terms of Service state: “You will not post content that: is hateful, threatening, or pornographic; incites violence; or contains nudity or graphic or gratuitous violence.”

The New Anti-Gay Movement’s response to messages to the above effect as posted by pro-gay users was this: “By definition this page does not in any way or form count as ‘hate speech’. While there is a very thin line, this is on the proper side of it. It does not promote violence, intimidation, harassment or other misconducted sic actions. It exists solely as a point of view to be shared by others that share the same ideal. Our right to voice our feelings towards gays is no more in the wrong than your option to voice an opinion FOR it.”

GAY PRIDE @ THE WHITE HOUSE!!!!! President Obama to Court Gay Vote and Money...







The timing and place of Thursday's gala is amplified as New York state lawmakers are nearing a vote that could make gay marriage legal. The state would then join Vermont, New Hampshire, Connecticut, Massachusetts, Iowa and the District of Columbia in legalizing same-sex marriage. The New York senate is just one vote shy and approval could come Thursday. Some in the gay community were disappointed with Obama's pace of pushing for gay rights early on in his administration.

But he was able to tone down some of that criticism by working on repealing Don't Ask Don't Tell, pressuring the Justice Department to stop taking on Defense of Marriage cases and extending benefits to same sex partners for government employees. Just last week at Netroots Nation, a liberal gathering for bloggers, White House Communications Director Dan Pfeiffer faced angered activists saying the president hasn't done enough to make the Don't Ask Don't Tell repeal swift enough and confusion over a questionnaire from the 90s where the president seemed to endorse gay marriage, but possibly changed his tune to win election in 2008. 



The administration is reportedly considering options for the president if he were to decide to fully endorse gay marriage. The New York Times cited anonymous officials who said the White House was seeking input on tactics and the impact if he chose to support it. Asked whether Obama would be selling this audience short by asking for money, but not supporting a key issue for them, Carney reiterated the president's backing of the community.

"[T]his President is very supportive of and strong on LGBT rights and his record is significant with regard to that. He's been very clear about his position on gay marriage. He has been very clear about how that position is evolving. I don't have any new announcement to make. But I think you know his record, and he's proud of it," Carney said on Monday.Recent polls narrowly show that the nation is warming up to the idea of gay marriage, with a slim majority supporting it.



Next week President Obama will also host a gay pride event at the White House.


Tuesday, June 21, 2011

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Lawsuit challenges homophobic Tenn. law!


A  lawsuit was filed against the new law banning local governments from creating anti-discrimination laws that are stricter than the state’s. The law was created to void Nashville’s  law that banned discrimination against gay and transgender people.
Tennessee’s anti-discrimination law currently covers race, creed, color, religion, sex, age and national origin. 
 The lawsuit, filed in Nashville, charges that the new law voids school board anti-discrimination policies in districts like Nashville or Knox County.
The lawsuit states, “HB600 embodies an animus toward gay and transgender people so strong that the Tennessee legislature was willing to repeal policies protecting students against bullying and harassment and to make other groups suffer as well, merely to prevent gay and transgender citizens from obtaining needed protections.”


The law’s effect on local schools is still being determined. Metro Nashville Public Schools cover sexual orientation and gender identity and expression in their anti-bulling/harassment policies.
“The net effect of the state legislation hasn’t yet been determined,” Cross said to The Republic. “The school board is not going to entertain a policy that sanctions bullying of any kind.”
The sponsor of the legislation, Republican Rep. Glen Casada, said it only affects businesses that contract with local governments. The law does not apply to employees who work for cities or counties, he said.
“The intent is to keep local governments from putting any more regulation on our local businesses beyond federal law,” he told The Republic.
Tennessee has also been in the news recently for its “don’t say gay” law.

Two punished after disabled gays told to leave pool!!!


 An employee at a public swimming pool in eastern Kentucky was suspended for a week without pay after telling two disabled gay men to leave, city of Hazard officials said Saturday. The suspended city employee Kim Haynes told investigators that the two men were engaged in an excessive display of affection June 10, and that he would have told any other couple to leave had he seen similar behavior. Haynes, however, also acknowledged he said “We don’t tolerate that kind of activity around here” and cited the Bible in an argument with Laura Quillen, a member of the social service group Mending Hearts, which was overseeing the group. 

Quillen told investigators the men did nothing inappropriate.
According to a report released by city attorney Paul R. Collins, summing up the conflicting accounts, at least one witness saw the men “standing `man to man’ or `belly to belly’ in the pool . splashing each other with water and pushing each other under the water.” The witness “also said he observed them hug each other on at least one occasion” and give each other a kiss, the report said.
Pearlman and Haynes were not at work on Saturday and could not be reached by the newspaper for comment by telephone.
Meanwhile, dozens of people rallied at the pool Saturday in support of the gay men.

“It’s time that people stood up for people. It’s just the right thing to do,” Marsha Morgan from Leslie County told WYMT-TV.
Jordan Palmer, president of the Kentucky Equality Federation, said the men were discriminated against.
“There was not kissing, and there was nothing of that sort. One of them sat on the others knee and that was it,” said Jordan Palmer, president of the Kentucky Equality Federation.
The manager of the Hazard Pavilion also was reprimanded for unbecoming conduct, The Courier-Journal reported. Charlotte Pearlman used inappropriate and obscene language when declining comment to a television news crew, the city said.

The city also said new anti-discrimination signs will be posted at the pool, as well as signs warning against excessive public displays of affection.

Saturday, June 18, 2011

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What Would You Do??! ‘Our son has two moms, but his class is making Father’s Day cards – how should we help?’


 
 Our son, who has two moms and no dad, came home from school this week and said that his fourth-grade class will spend an hour making Father’s Day cards. He didn’t know what to say to the teacher. How can we help him here?


 These days, most North American families don’t conform to the classic model of the nuclear family, so not having a father at home is a pretty common scenario. When push comes to shove, it doesn’t really matter whether it’s a single mom raising her child alone, a mother who’s been widowed, or a pair of lesbian moms: a family is a family, with or without a dad around.
Fortunately, many school districts have reacted to changing circumstances by modernizing this little ritual (along with its counterpart, Mother’s Day), either by changing its name to “Parent’s Day” or simply by letting the kids make a card for any relative, teacher, or role model. 
That said, I don’t think this is a circumstance where you should make your child do the talking (not at his age).If you haven’t spoken to the teacher previously about your two-mom family, use this as an opportunity to do so. (By the way, it’s wisest to approach this topic much earlier in the year so you can develop a plan, not only for Father’s Day, but for any circumstance where your son might be called out for being different.) Explain that your son is uncomfortable with the assignment, and suggest some options for doing things differently (if the teacher doesn’t take the lead on that).In your case, that could be a Mother’s Day card to both of you in May and a special card for a favorite uncle or godfather on Father’s Day. Ideally, the teacher will agree to make sure that the assignment suits any family situation.
You might also want to have a private talk with your son to allow him to express his feelings about not having a father. Tell him again how much both of his moms love him and the family you’ve formed; but also tell him that you understand how he might miss having a dad. Acknowledging his feelings (which may have something to do with why he told you about the card project in the first place) doesn’t make your family any less valid or loving.

 
It’s also a good time to remind everyone—your son, his teacher, yourselves—to be on the lookout for any potential name-calling or bullying because of your sexual orientation.
As an example, my niece, who has two moms, was confronted by an acquaintance at camp who told her it was “disgusting” that she didn’t have a father. My niece stood her ground, but it’s so important for kids in these situations to be supported by those in charge. You can also bet that the hostile young camper didn’t have gay-friendly parents, which is no doubt where the problem started.
By contrast, I just love what Gwyneth Paltrow recently wrote on her website Goop.com: “When my daughter came home from school one day saying that a classmate had two mommies, my response was, ‘Two mommies? How lucky is she?!’”
How’s that for a role model! Happy Parent’s Day to one and all!

Friday, June 17, 2011

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Depression in Black Gay Men: A Silent Issue

Breaking the silence of depression in the Black gay community





Nationwide, members of the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) community on Friday, Apr 15, 2010, commemorated a day of silence – vowing not to speak for one 24-hour period as a unified protest action in solidarity with other LGBT and against the treatment members of the community receive from a majority of people. This day of silence was also an occasion to create a crack in the reluctance to speak about depression and its debilitating effects in the Black gay community.

In the Black community, there is significant resistance to addressing depression. Without regard to ethnic origin, whether African American, Afro Caribbean, or African, the cultural belief is that one does not speak his business, especially his personal business about himself, out of the family. Equally, in many Black families, with the emphasis on masculinity and survival in challenging times, including dealing with racial discrimination, speaking out about one’s inner feelings is often regarded as a weakness or a significant flaw, to be strengthen or eradicated, at all costs and by all means. Therefore, many Black gay men are caught in a vicious cycle: it is taboo to talk about what’s bothering him, and if he should try, he would be branded as weak.

A New Jersey-based journalist, Glenn Townes, when he lived in Kansas City, MO, wrote about his own depression, in “Tale of a Wounded Warrior: One Man’s Battle Against Depression” for the Infinity Institute International, Inc., Website, “I still find there’s a strong stigma to African Americans and therapy, particularly for brothers. Tell someone you’re seeing a shrink and they just may haul off and hit you with: “Man, you must be crazy.” But I think it’s just the opposite: Sometimes you’d have to be crazy not to seek therapy.”



Article By Antoine Craigwell











Gaga Vs Target!!!! Gaga Offs Target Over Anti-Gay Donations



When it comes to Target‘s political affiliations, Lady Gaga thinks the retail giant misses the mark [badum-ching!]. Mother Monster has nixed plans to sell an exclusive special edition of her upcoming album through Tarzhay, citing their donations to MN Forward, “a political action committee that supported antigay candidate Tom Emmer in his failed 2010 run for governor of Minnesota,” according to The Advocate.


 

Speaking with Billboard magazine last month, Gaga said of her relationship with Tarzhay:

“Part of my deal with Target is that they have to start affiliating themselves with LGBT charity groups and begin to reform and make amends for the mistakes they’ve made in the past … our relationship is hinged upon their reform in the company to support the gay community and to redeem the mistakes they’ve made supporting those [antigay] groups.”


After not seeing “eye to eye” on Target’s political stance, the Lady called off the show. Color me impressed, Gags — ticking to your scruples in this day and age? Well, that’s practically unheard of! As is having scruples in the first place.

NY Daily News/ Fahionindie.com








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Thursday, June 16, 2011

Grande homophobic charge leveled at Long Island Starbucks; woman says gay employee forced to quit





The Starbucks Coffee Co., responding to an open letter posted on the web by a Long Island customer, is investigating her claim that a gay employee was publicly pilloried and forced to quit.
"We are disheartened by the allegations reported in an East Coast Starbucks store and are taking immediate measures to investigate and take any steps necessary to make this right," read a company statement.


"The actions reported do not correspond with our values, who we are as a company or the beliefs we try to instill in our partners."
Self-proclaimed Starbucks fanatic Missy Alison, 34, of East Hampton, L.I., detailed the incident on her blog.
"I saw one of the most brazen and unapologetic displays of homophobia I have ever witnessed in my entire life," Alison wrote.
"What was most concerning about it was it was perpetuated by not one, not two but THREE of your employees and it was directed towards a fourth employee."
Alison claimed one of the Starbucks workers launched "a long, ranting homophobic rant" when the targeted employee left to got to the bathroom in the Centereach outlet.
The woman was sitting at a nearby table with her 4-year-old daughter when the incident occurred last weekend.
Starbucks said that while it intended to find out exactly what happened, it will not make public any disciplinary action.
"As this is a personnel matter, it is our policy not to provide such details regarding those steps," the company said.




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